different kinds of travelers

How to Be Single and 30

If you haven’t seen the new movie, “How to Be Single,” you should grab your girlfriends, sneak a bottle of wine in your purse, and go. Just go.

Not only is it laugh-out-loud hilarious, but I guarantee you will resonate with at least one of the women (Dakota Johnson, Rebel Wilson, Leslie Mann) and her experiences with men. I saw myself in each of their stories, actually, from the uber-independent “I don’t need a man to have a baby…but I want one” character, to the more subtle, “too slow to realize that what we thought we wanted might not be true anymore” character. Above all, the moral of the movie is that we do need someone to be there for us in life, and that great girlfriends will always be.

However, I think one crucial storyline is missing from the movie: the traveler.

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Exploring Central Mexico on a solo trip.

Travel can open up a world of possibility for a future career, relationship, or lifelong friends. Travel educates us in the ways of the world; we learn how and where we fit in. Travel shows us that we are stronger, braver and more capable than we thought we could be. Travel, in short, teaches us about who we are and what we really want in life.

I wouldn’t be where I’m at today if it weren’t for both travel and great friends. And despite what many might think, my solo travels only strengthen my friendships because true friends will encourage you to chase your dreams and support your inner growth.

Sometimes, they’ll even hop on a plane with you.


I’ve known Nicole (on my left) since preschool and she has joined me on several adventures around the world, including this Full Moon Party in Thailand.

So when life gives you lemons (of the male variety or otherwise), you should definitely keep wandering, all the way to Costa Rica [or insert paradise here] where you can add vodka and make the best tropical lemonade you’ve ever had.

At least that’s what I’m doing.

I’m booked on a one-way ticket to live la pura vida, where three of the best, most supportive, most encouraging women in my life will join me to bring in my 30th year in style. Cheers to a new decade!

So even though Hollywood doesn’t always get it right, this is your single life. Buy that plane ticket and go write your own movie.


Love these ladies! This was a previous birthday celebration where three of the women in this photo surprised me. (I love surprises!)

Have you seen “How to Be Single? If so, what did you think? Do you agree there should be a traveler in the mix? 



  1. Melissa says:

    Another amazing, well written piece. You are so right and I just loved how you added travel cause it is another factor to include.
    Brilliant job.

  2. THANK YOU! I’m almost to 30 and I’ve tried to explain to people that there is nothing wrong with my life choices. Every guy I meet seems to think I’m “getting desperate” or at least looking for someone when that couldn’t be further from the truth. I’ve learned that you have to choose what it is you want out of life, for some its a home with a husband and 2.5 children, and for me it’s bumming around the world. 😉

    • jessicajhill says:

      I’ve also been accused of “getting desperate” though I’ve come to realize it’s often a projection of their own derivative. Keep calm, and travel on, sister! You’re amazing 🙂

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